Wedding guest questions · For the host
Can we bring our kids?
“Bachchon ko la sakte hain?”
Say clearly whether children are invited, to which functions, and up to what age. If they are welcome, mention anything that helps parents: a kids' menu, a minder, a quiet room, how late it runs. If they are not, say it kindly on the invitation itself, before anyone has to ask.
What to tell guests
How should you answer it?
- Decide per function. Children may be welcome at the haldi and the wedding but not at a late cocktail evening.
- Count them. Children take seats and plates, and your caterer needs the number.
- If an evening is adults only, say so warmly and early: "We love your little ones, and this evening is planned for adults."
- If children are coming, tell parents what is there for them.
Ready to send
A WhatsApp reply to copy
Change the words in brackets to your own.
English
Of course, the kids are very welcome at [the haldi and the wedding]. There's [a kids' menu and a play corner]. The [cocktail evening] is adults only; we hope you understand.
Hinglish
Bilkul, bachche [haldi aur shaadi] mein zaroor aayein. Unke liye [alag khana aur khelne ki jagah] hai. [Cocktail wali shaam] sirf badon ke liye hai, ummeed hai aap samjhenge.
Avoid
What goes wrong with this one?
- Saying nothing, then being surprised on the day.
- Telling one family "no kids" and another "of course". Families talk.
- Leaving children out of the headcount for food and seating.
On ShaadiMode
Can someone answer this for you on WhatsApp?
ShaadiMode's guest helper answers this from your invitation on WhatsApp. There is no field for this on the invitation, so type one line in More → Guest helper. The helper can also tell a family how many seats their own invitation carries, and never promises more. It comes with Signature, where it either drafts the reply for you to approve or sends it on its own when it is sure. How the guest helper works
Questions
Related questions
How do I say no kids on a wedding invitation politely?
Say it once, warmly, on the invitation for the functions it applies to: "We love your little ones, and this evening is planned for adults." Then give everyone the same answer.
Do children count in the wedding headcount?
Yes, for seats and food. Ask families to include children when they reply, and tell the caterer how many are coming.
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