Wedding guest questions · For the host
Can I bring a plus one?
“Kisi aur ko saath la sakta hoon?”
Tell each guest how many seats their invitation carries, and keep one house rule for extra people: yes, no, or ask us first. Put it on the invitation itself. Asked one by one, this is the question where families feel singled out, so a clear number per family is kinder than deciding case by case.
What to tell guests
How should you answer it?
- Write the seat count on each family's invitation: "We've kept 4 seats for you."
- Decide the rule before you send, and apply it to every family the same way.
- If you can take a few more, say "ask us" rather than "yes", so you can keep count.
- Ask for names in the reply, so the caterer gets real numbers.
Ready to send
A WhatsApp reply to copy
Change the words in brackets to your own.
English
We've kept [4] seats for your family. If you'd like to bring someone else, just tell us their name and we'll check with the caterer and confirm.
Hinglish
Aapke parivar ke liye [4] seats rakhi hain. Kisi aur ko laana ho to unka naam bata dijiye, hum caterer se pooch ke confirm kar denge.
Avoid
What goes wrong with this one?
- A vague "and family" on the card. Every family reads it differently.
- Saying yes in chat and forgetting to change the headcount.
- Different rules for different families, with no reason anyone can see.
On ShaadiMode
Can someone answer this for you on WhatsApp?
ShaadiMode's guest helper answers this from your invitation on WhatsApp. The helper can tell a family how many seats their own invitation carries, and never promises one more. Its starting answer asks guests to check with the family for an extra seat; change it in More → Guest helper. It comes with Signature, where it either drafts the reply for you to approve or sends it on its own when it is sure. How the guest helper works
Questions
Related questions
How do I say no plus ones on a wedding invitation?
Give a seat count instead: "We've kept 2 seats for you." It says the same thing without a refusal, and it is the same rule for everyone.
What does 'and family' mean on an Indian wedding card?
Usually the people living in one household, but every family reads it differently. A seat count on each invitation removes the guesswork.
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